Where’s God In My Marriage?

I had what should have been an ordinary occurrence turn into an “incident,” and a God moment for me. My one-year-old grandson had to go for his one-year doctor’s appointment and shots.

Grandma got to go along.

We arrived at the doctor’s office and were escorted in without incident—not yet at least. The first stop was the scale. My son and daughter-in-law were instructed to strip off all of our precious little guys’ clothes and place him on the scale. As soon as this happened the baby began to reach for his dad with a look of terror in his eyes. The nurse instructed my son to back away so she could get an accurate weight. As my son complied, my scared grandson had a look that still haunts me. “Dad, how could you leave me? How could you let me be all-alone on this cold rigid contraption? Dad, how could you?”

Are you going through something right now and you’re wondering where God is in the whole equation? Are you wondering where God is in your marriage? God, do you see how I’m suffering? Lord, why don’t I hear from you? God, I feel all alone.

After his weight was taken little guy was back in his daddy’s arms—and clinging more tightly.

While in the room we waited for the doctor. I could feel my sweet grandson’s energy diminish as we waited. Once the doctor arrived, and checked little guy out on the examining table, he started crying. He wasn’t sure what was going on but he knew he didn’t like it.

Do you find yourself unsure about your future? Do you feel like you’re on the center of a teeter-totter and you can’t get your balance?

After the doctor left, Grandma wanted to add her wisdom, “I didn’t like that, that wasn’t fun at all.” My son joked, “Next time maybe we need to leave Grandma home.”

“Okay, I’ll be good.”

Then the nurse came in with the shots. It was barbaric! They held him down and poked him with needles and he cried and screamed. My heart could barely take it. By the time the nurse left I had tears streaming down my face. Seeing my little grandson in such pain and angst was more than my grandma soul could take.

“That was terrible,” Grandma proclaimed through the sobs.

I had gotten through this with all three of my kids without incident. Being a grandma is hard y’all!

My son and daughter-in-law were doing what was best for their child, whom they love so dearly, but sometimes being a good parent, no, a GREAT parent, means allowing pain into our child’s life.

Why is there so much pain in this world? Why does God allow so much sorrow?

I don’t know all the answers…

but what I do know is that God is there and He loves us.

“For we do not have a high priest who is unable to empathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are—yet he did not sin.”

-Hebrews 4:15

I know God understands and I know if we call on Him he is there for us. I also know this isn’t the end—this world is only the beginning. After we leave here God has a place prepared for those who love Him.

Are you struggling in your marriage?

God sees and He cares. Are you in pain? God sees and He cares. Are you at a crossroads and don’t know what to do? God sees and you can call on Him for help.

In this life, we will go through much disappointment and grief, no one is spared of this. Maybe my grandson’s doctor’s visit was opening my eyes to the fact that I can’t project him from all the pain life may bring him—no matter how much I want to. We don’t want those we love to experience pain or sorrow. But it is through pain and sorrow that we grow. If you are in a season of pain and sorrow in your life—in your marriage—cling to God, follow His commands, and wait for the beauty only He can bring.

“He will swallow up death for all time, and the Lord God will wipe tears away from all faces, and He will remove the reproach of His people from all the earth; For the Lord has spoken.”

-Isaiah 25:8

Trust God today.

Fondly,

Lu