Valentine’s Victim

Have you been a victim of Valentine’s Day?

• Have you ever had high expectations for this lover’s day—dreams if you will—only to have them crushed?
• Have you felt alone on this romantic day, holding Cupid’s broken arrow?
• Have you ever felt deflated on this Sweetheart’s Day because you forgot to make reservations where your wife wanted to have dinner?
• How many of you men dread Valentine’s Day because your intentions never seem to measure up with her anticipation?

It’s the one time of year men are supposed to be romantic and know exactly what their Valentine wants.

Or are they?

I’ve been married for 33 years. On this 34^th Valentine’s Day together I will be flying home after being out of town for a couple of weeks. My husband called me so we could discuss our special day upon my return. You would think after 34 years we’d have it down, right?

Well, here’s how it went as I answered my phone…

Mike: Hey, Beautiful.

Me: Hey.

Mike: Having a good time?

Me: Yeah.

Mike: I feel pressure about Sunday [Valentine’s Day].

Me: Well, you can let that go right now.

Mike: I don’t want to disappoint you.

Me: That’s not possible.

Mike: I don’t think it’s a good idea to go to that restaurant you wanted to go to, they don’t take reservations.

Me: That’s okay.

Mike: I’m really just looking forward to seeing you.

Me: Yeah, me too.

Mike: I’ll find another restaurant.

Me: Okay, great.

Done.

Side Commentary: Am I not married to the best husband ever? I fall in love with that man more and more every day.

Interlude over.

Ladies, would it surprise you to know your man wants to make you happy on most days? Including Valentine’s Day? If there is something you want, tell him. Talk about it. Ask.

Men, if you’re not sure how to make the love of your life happy on this particular day and fear letting her down, talk to her. Express your desire to please her and come up with a plan together.

At the end of the “Valentine’s” day, what matters is how we love each other every day, not just on holidays.

Ladies, release any pressure off your man.

Men, communicate how you feel.

Please, don’t be a victim.

Plan.

Talk.

Ask.

Take charge of your life.

Most of all…

Love each other all out every day.