Stop Being Rude

I can’t remember the last time I felt as infuriated by another person. Or in this case two people—two men. I’m 99% sure that at least one of them was a pastor. And please know I have a huge respect for pastors, being married to one myself. I think pastors are some of the best human beings on the planet, but on this day I was thoroughly annoyed.

I was listening to Andy Stanley talk at a conference and these two guys—two chairs away from me!—were having a full on conversation. I’m not exaggerating, they were totally having a conversation obviously thinking that what they were talking about was more important than what Andy Stanley–one of the best communicators and pastors Ever!–had to say. And they weren’t even whispering. I mean if y’all are gonna talk AT LEAST whisper. Right? SO rude!

I was thoroughly annoyed, and then some.

Why didn’t I say anything?

First, Andy was talking about loving others and, second, because I didn’t want any drama. So I chose to be irritated. And now write about it. *smiley face emoji

This lead me to thinking about rudeness. I began thinking about how sometimes we can be rude without even realizing it. Sometimes we can be rude to our spouse.

Basically, rudeness is being inconsiderate. How often are we inconsiderate to the one we vowed to love most?

I know I can sometimes be rude to my husband without even realizing it. I become rude when I forget that everything isn’t about me. I want things my way and allow myself to become irritated when the ideas I had in my head don’t go as planned.

I think many of us fall into the trap that the evil one has set for us, and that is believing that marriage is about us. That it’s about feeling happy. Getting everything we want and need from the other person. That’s the big lie that many of us fall into. Marriage isn’t about us.

Marriage is about our spouse. It’s about serving the other person. It’s about putting another’s needs before our own. When we do that, that is when we can get fulfillment in our marriage. When we treat another with that level of love and respect it leaves room for God to work, and for the other person to be the best version of themselves. It gives the other room for love and reciprocation.

When we choose to honor our beloved we are not only honoring them we are honoring God.

Let’s leave rudeness at the door and choose love.

Fondly,

Lu

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