Show Up

As I was organizing my office I came across some notes from a conference I attended. A friend of mine, Pastor Chris Cannon, shared some truth bombs about balancing life for happiness and success.

Four main points:

-Show up

-Be present

-Tell the truth

-Let go of the outcome

He also said…

• Schedule your top priorities.
• Disappoint the right people.
• Busy people are broken people.

Sometimes just showing up can be huge. How many times have you looked around and thought, “I wish so-and-so were here”? And on the other end of that looked around and thought, “Wow, seeing this person makes my heart jump”? I remember speaking at a women’s retreat and looking around the room, seeing a friend, and my heart was full as tears rolled down my face. I hurried over to her to give her a thanks and a hug. Showing up, especially for our kids, is sometimes the most impactful thing you can do. 

Then, have you ever had an experience where you did show up for something, but you know you were somewhere else in your mind? Showing up can bless another but not being present after we show up takes the blessing away from us.

Another thing that can rob us of blessing is not being a truth teller. If we tell the truth we never have to worry about what we said in the past. Speaking truth is freeing and refreshing.

All we can control is ourselves. When we let go of outcomes, and trying to control, it creates space for love and happiness.

As we make space we need to make sure we are filling that space with what’s most important to us. Our calendar will show us what we really hold as top priority. If spending time with your spouse or your children are top priorities put it on your schedule like you would any other appointment and hold to it. If you have an 11:00 a.m. meeting and a 12:00 p.m. lunch with a friend or spouse cut off your 11:00 just like you would if you had another work meeting. Put what’s most important on your calendar.

We will disappoint people. We are human it will happen. But if we are going to disappoint others, disappoint the right people.

If we are too busy to enjoy all the blessings God has given us, then, we are destroying joy. Being over booked and over busy can ruin your life. If we can’t slow down, it will one day break us. Whether it be our health, our relationships, or our peace, it will one day take a toll on us.

Enjoy today, and show up, be present, tell the truth, and let go of the outcome remembering to schedule your top priorities, disappoint the right people, and don’t be too busy where you’re sucking the joy out of life.

“Behold, what I have seen to be good and fitting is to eat and drink and find enjoyment in all the toil with which one toils under the sun the few days of his life that God has given him, for this is his lot.”

-Ecclesiastes 5:18 ESV

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