Love Language

After being married for 36 years I finally took the love language test to find out what my love language was.

I was totally surprised by the results.

For those of you who have no idea what I’m talking about Dr. Gary Chapman has a book titled, The 5 Love Languages and for some reason I had never read it. Until recently, that is. I just figured if I worked at keeping all 5 of the love languages in my marriage then we’d be fine.

I read the book and then took the love language test at the end.

I was shocked by the results.

I ended up scoring highest on physical touch. I sincerely had no idea that was my top love language.

I began really thinking about it.

I can remember when I was a small child my great grandmother used to let me touch her ear lobes for long periods of time. They were long and soft and wrinkly and I loved the way they felt between my fingers.

It was soothing.

My great grandmother will always be one of my favorite people of all time, I have nothing but fond memories of her and knew she loved me deeply.

Here’s a fun fact:

My great grandmother only spoke Italian, so, the love I got from her was through actions, like making us kids yummy Italian dishes, and through grandma touches.

Then, I started thinking about how I am always touching my husband. I hold his hand, sit close, grab his arm, and hug him…often. When I can be close to him I feel loved. Go figure! I should have known.

How do you feel loved?

It’s important that we express to our partner what makes us feel loved. And then, let them know what we need from them.

We can’t expect our loved one to already know. We need to be proactive with the way we feel and express love.

I didn’t wait for my husband to give me the love I needed, I aggressively pursued him by touching him constantly.

I decided my husband needed to take the love language test, too.

And I was even more shocked by his results.

He, too, scored highest on physical touch.

I guess you could say we are very fortunate because we speak the same love language.

But what if you and your spouse have different love languages? That’s why it’s important to express love through all the love languages—physical touch, words of affirmation, quality time, gifts, and acts of service. And ask him or her what communicates love to them most.

It’s critical to aggressively pursue love.

Find out how you feel loved and how your spouse feels loved.

And be strategic about making love happen.

I didn’t know what my love language was, but I knew I loved touching my husband so, I touched him as often as I could.

And still do.

How about you?

Are you pursuing the love you need?

Are you finding out what makes your partner feel loved?

If we feel like we are loving our spouse all out, but they aren’t feeling loved, we are missing the mark.

We must do the things that match with the love language they speak.

Let’s love all out.

Speak love loud.

Fondly,

Lu

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