How to Get Flowers
“I got flowers!” she announced.
Wait. Let me back it up.
My husband has been undergoing physical therapy to recover from his knee replacement surgeries. Yes, you read that right, surgeriessss with an s, both knees got replaced.
Mike told his therapist, Roxy (not her real name) that his wife (me) had a new book just released. After he told her about it, she was genuinely interested in getting a copy.
Mike told her, “I’ll bring you a book at my next visit.”
As promised on his next physical therapy appointment he gave her a copy. As I waited for him in the lobby, Roxy came darting out from the back to thank me for the gift; and, I thanked her for the amazing care she was giving my husband. I expressed how grateful I was for her.
Here’s the fun part…
The next time Mike saw Roxy—which was about a week later—while he was peddling on the stationary bike she approached him smiling.
She announced, “I got flowers. I’m on chapter three. I made some changes and I got flowers.”
And then she rushed off to go back to work.
My husband chuckled and my heart felt warm when he told me the words she had said.
I love getting flowers, don’t you?
Sometimes all our spouse needs to know is that we appreciate him or her to light up their day. When we look for ways to say, I love you, with actions and words and niceties, it can ramp up our connection and our intimacy.
We all love to know someone loves and appreciates us.
Are you longing to know you are loved and appreciated?
Instead of hoping “to get” what you long for, turn it around and give appreciation and affirmation.
That is the secret all happy couples know. They know marriage is about offering your all and your best to your spouse.
Here’s a secret all successful married couples know…
Marriage is not about you.
It’s not about you being happy or your spouse being happy. Yes, extreme joy and happiness can be a by-product of marriage—that’s the way God designed it.
In order to obtain the kind of marriage that honors God, you must fight against your innate selfish nature.
When everything inside of you screams, I need to take care of ME and look out for ME. You need to bury self-centered thinking and think in terms of what is best for your relationship.
Think in terms of what’s best for WE.
As we learn this, we will be happier and happier in our marriages.
Do YOU want flowers?
Pick up a copy of The Intimacy You Crave: Straight Talk about Sex and Pancakes and see what happens and follow the “Secret Missions” and you may even get more than flowers.
Fondly,
Lu
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