How to Fall In Love Over and Over

I’ve had the words of Jesus on my mind this week: “The King will reply, ‘Truly I tell you, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers and sisters of mine , you did for me'”(Matt. 25:40). Who are the least of these? Certainly our husband or wife would come within this category.

Wouldn’t you agree?

So, allow me to rephrase this: What you do for your husband, you do for me.

 As I write, my husband is a week out from having had knee replacement surgery.

Life has been difficult and beautiful.

It has been difficult to see him in pain. It has been difficult to keep a positive attitude and to be bright and smiling. It has been difficult not to succumb to the negative voices in my head chanting, You should be doing so much more. You’re not staying on top of all the tasks you need to do. You need to write and you’re falling behind. You have a  book deadline and you’re going to miss it….

Yes, it’s been difficult.

And, it’s been beautiful.

What can be more important than taking care of my husband right now? Nothing. Absolutely nothing.

And with that, I will settle in to this oh so important task, realizing I am doing a great thing—the most important thing.

When one gets married we have huge hopes and dreams of a forever love which flows like perpetual rainbows. And at times, love can feel like that, I have experienced it personally. I’ve experienced it when I’ve been on dates with my husband and when I’ve heard his compliments approving of me and when I’ve woken up next to him.

But for now waking up next to him means sleeping on the loveseat in the living room to be near him during the night.

Reality is that forever love is digging in and doing the right thing at the right time.

It’s sacrifice. It’s putting another’s needs above your needs.

Forever love has been more revealed  through this surgery more than ever before…

Forever love helps one to walk in their walker.

Forever love refills the ice machine which is attached to your loved one’s leg.

Forever love is bathing the one you love because they can’t do it by themselves.

Forever love is cleaning the bathrooms.

Forever love is getting up again and again even when you’re exhausted.

I love this forever love and couldn’t imagine doing anything else.

Gut check, I couldn’t be more thankful that I have the privilege of caring for my husband during this “difficult” time. For this is the reality of marriage. It’s not the sugar cookies and romantic rendezvous and dancing rainbows, it’s the day to day of life. It’s continually offering your best before the one you love no matter what season you’re in both the rainbow days and the digging in days.

Fall in love.

Fondly,

Lu

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