Dealing With Haters

I didn’t think it would happen to me. I guess I’m naïve. I mean, I knew it could happen, I just didn’t think anyone would take the time to focus on me so intently. When I say focus I am not talking about in a good way—not even close.

I have haters.

I did a YouTube video that sparked something in others, and people are saying some of the most hateful-horrible-terrible-no-good-rotten things about me.

It’s a bit sobering.

My first question: “Is there any validity to what is being said?”

And second: “Or are they just being hateful?”

I think when people are going after us we need to assess who they are. Like, for instance, if it’s someone who I love and respect I will definitely listen and take heed. But, on the other hand, if it’s someone who doesn’t know me, and doesn’t care about me, then, do I give them any credence?

In this case it’s the latter. And mostly, it’s due to my faith and belief in God. It surprised me how angry and nasty people can be.

Allow me to quote my favorite author:

If one does right and is judged to be right, he will be neither angry nor hurt. He may, if he is humble, be pleased (is it not right to be glad that right is done?), but he will not be proud.

If on who is proud does wrong and is judged to be wrong, he will be both angry and hurt.

If one who is proud does right and is judged to be wrong, he also will be both angry and hurt.

If one who is truly humble does wrong and is judged to be wrong, he will not resent it but will in gratitude and humility, no matter what it costs him, heed the judgment and repent.

If one who is truly humble does right and is judged to be wrong, he will not give the judgment a second thought. It is his Father’s glory that matters to him, not his own. He will “rejoice and be exceeding glad,” knowing for one thing that a great reward will be his, and, for another, that he thus enters in a measure into the suffering of Christ—“when he suffered he made no threats of revenge. He simply committed his cause to the One who judges fairly.”

– Elisabeth Elliot, On Asking God Why

If we know we are right before God there is no need for retaliation, anger, or waisted time and energy. We only need go about the business of loving and serving others.

If others can affect you to the degree in which you get stopped and get caught up emotionally spending undo energy hating others, that, in deed, is a sad state of affairs. There’s enough ugly and hate in the world and I refuse to add to it.

I know I’m a kind person, I will be kind to the best of my ability in each situation. I am going to be who I am. I know I’m a child of the King of the Universe, and it is His opinion of me that matters most. I will pursue pleasing the One who gives life and invites me into eternal life.

When others are hating on you, for any reason, you need to remember who you are, and who’s you are. And most importantly, you cannot allow them to stop you from accomplishing your mission.

“You don’t have to say anything to the haters. You don’t have to acknowledge them at all. You just wake up every morning and be the best you you can be. And that tends to shut them up.”

-Michelle Obama

That’s exactly what I plan to do. Be the best me I can be. How about you?

Fondly,

Lu

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Lastly, check out this video by Grant Cardone talking about haters.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UYfAVXi9A_Q